Okay, so I’ve already written a post about the more personal side of being stressed a little while ago; in honesty, I’m still stressed now – I mean, who isn’t? Whether you’re first, second or final year of uni, or even at sixth form/college, the lead-up to Easter is a tough one, as it means summer exams are getting nearer and nearer. It’s nail-bitingly tense.
So anyway, I’m trying to be proactive at the moment, and find ways that are actually going to work for me to keep myself calm and – most importantly to me – happy. I’m kind of on a happiness-hype right now, trying to keep my head above water and keep a smile even when I start to submerge, because I know I’m always going to be okay in the end – and so are you!
Here are some things that I have recently found to help with keeping happy, sane, and stress free (well at least less stressed!):
Number One – Alpha Waves
My friend Aron pointed out to me on the bus back from the Tamworth Snowdome that “alpha waves” are meant to be good for when you’re revising – to help keep focused. I’d never really heard of them, and to be perfectly honest I still don’t quite know what they are; check it out for yourself, this is what I’ve been listening to a lot recently:
I have it on in the background when I’m working, and so far I’ve been listening to it for about a week now. It helps me to keep chilled out when I’m doing things that would otherwise stress me out, and I feel that overall in the past week, I’ve become more relaxed when I’m not working as well as working. Revision and writing notes for me personally is always stressful, as I spend so long doing it. So, having this on in the background reduces the built-up stress and I think it’s actually helped me out to be less of a stress-head in general day-to-day things! I might be talking rubbish – but hey, it’s worth a try!
Number Two – Whatever you’re doing that’s stressing you out… stop!
It might sound a bit dumb to say this, but if you’re getting stressed out by something… stop doing it! Take a break, go make a nice cup of hot chocolate, or sit and watch cats on YouTube for half an hour. Just do something else. Believe me, I’m saying this from experience; if you’re hitting a wall, you’re not going to be able to get through it if you’re just continuously banging your head against it, hoping for the best. You’re going to tire out easily, and it’ll start affecting other things in your life like sleep, friend/relationships, and also your general attitude to life in general. If you’re hitting a wall, the only thing you can do is take a rest, so you can come back and knock it down completely in a bit!
I thought this picture was actually quite good for getting my point across here; in order to succeed, you need to have a balance of working and taking time for yourself. It looks like a yin-yang symbol is in the latte foam, which I thought perfectly captured my me-time treat of a caramel latte when I was taking a break from work. Also, I hope you like how pretty my coloured pens are 🙂
Number Three – Have Something To Look Forward To
This one has come in a number of forms for me lately: trips home to see the family; going to the snowdome in Tamworth to ski; having a random meal out with friends – just because we’ve all gotten a bit fed up and tired with working. The point I’m trying to make here is that having something to look forward to – a goal if you will – will help you stay motivated, and also take your mind off working when you get to that event.
My flatmates and I have also set aside Wednesday evenings for movie night where we each take turns to chose a film, and we just sit and watch it together. It doesn’t really require any planning or added stress to make it happen, it’s just a nice, quiet, social time to get you out of your little bubble in the library or your room and taking two or three hours to do something else.
You’ll only get to experience uni once (unless you’re a certain Dr Sheldon Cooper and have about a million degrees of different levels), so you want to make sure you’ll remember it for all the right reasons in the future – so definitely not a dark period in your life where you were so stressed you cried yourself to sleep every night. That’s bad – and you can help yourself to avoid it!
Number Four – Bedroom…
Okay this is a weird one. My mum always used to tell me when I was in senior school and sixth form that “A tidy room is a focused mind” or something similar, and I was always just like pssshh okay because I was a teenager and anything that adults said, you know, I naturally had to disagree with. One of the aims I made at the start of the term to try to combat my stress was that I would have my room for living in, and I would go to the library or a lab to work. It’s a shame because I can’t tell you whether that would have worked or not, but I suppose it would have done. The only reason it didn’t work is because it would have been so impractical to take all my stuff to and from my accommodation each day as it would be quite heavy – so I just do it at home instead.
The thing is, if my room is tidy, I feel I can focus a lot more… It’s weird. I mean, my bedroom isn’t a complete mess all the time, and when it is messy, it isn’t the type of messy that anyone else would consider “messy”, if you get what I mean. But if everything is away, my desk is clear of anything not related to work, and my bed is made, I find it easier to get into the swing of things as I’m not thinking every 8 minutes that “jees, I really need to put that jar of curry sauce in my food box” or something like “I really need to sort out the stuff at the end of my bed so you know it’s like not at the end of my bed…” and things like that. If I’ve already done those things, my mind can’t really wander to them when I might start hitting a wall.
Number Five – YOU
Take some time for you. This is you-time, so doing what you want to do, and what will make you happy. Paint your nails, read a book, start watching a new TV series, get some flowers, go into town and window-shop, actual-shop, online-shop, cook a nice meal or order in, watch a film, make nutella on toast or the best toastie you’ll ever eat. The most important thing in your life shouldn’t be your degree – it should be YOU. If you graduate with a 2:1 but are so broken when you do eventually graduate from the stress you put yourself under, you’re not going to be able to do anything – let alone commit to a job that’s basically what you’ve been stressing about for the past 3/4 years! Take time for yourself, and start to realise that having 10 minutes to yourself here and there isn’t going to do anything but get you a bit more chilled out, and more ready to tackle your work.
Okay! I think that’s pretty much it you know, all I can think of right now, but I’m probably going to post another thing similar to this in the future as keeping your stress under control is a big part of getting through your degree!
As always, stay happy!